Before you text

  • Define one goal only (peace, reply, or meeting).
  • Remove pressure language from drafts.
  • Stabilize sleep and stress for 48 hours.

Days 1–7

  • One short, respectful message if appropriate.
  • No multi-message bursts.
  • Log response quality, not speed.

Days 8–14

  • Review what improved calm and replies.
  • Adjust one variable only.
  • Decide next step with guidance if blocked.